As Darren and I creep up on 6 months married I thought I would share 10 of my insights. We have been together over 4 years now, but I still enjoy the aspect of reflecting on when we got married, and how life has been even more amazing!
I love being married. I find great joy in being Darren's wife, and getting to call him my husband. I talk about Darren all the time because I think very highly of this amazing man I have married. I often share how proud I am of him, because I really am just so dang proud of all his hard work. I will never stop admiring his determination, and strength as he has climbed the ladder to arrive to the place he is at in his career. He is a real rock star in my eyes, and I will never change my opinion that he is the BEST mechanic there is. Sorry to everyone else out there, but Darren really is THE mechanic when it comes to repairing machines... basically a doctor if you ask me. Perhaps I am biased, but I'm not going to change.
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| Our morning coffee date over FaceTime. |
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| We are both obsessed with camping! |
So, as promised, here are my 10 insights:
1. Darren can read my mind. LOL okay not literally, but on the days I'm feeling stressed he senses it hours before I say anything. He says "whats on your mind" and I say "nothing, I'm fine." and he says "really?" and raises his eye brows at me... Okay, you caught me.
2. Make time for personal growth. I love all things personal development, but I love that we get to grow together! We are always learning and changing as individuals, but I love that we get to share these changes as a couple, and continue watering our marriage. We have some really beautiful flowers blooming!
3. Vulnerability really is powerful. It creates another layer of trust when you share the things that go on in your mind. It also helps you work through difficult events/ thoughts/ moments etc.
4. You don't have to love all the same things. I don't love rap music, but I can tolerate it, until I get sick of it and request to listen to something else. There are a few songs I enjoy, but there is also a handful that just aren't my jam, and that is perfectly okay. We work together as a team, but we also have our own individual likes and passions.
5. Always make quality time together a priority, especially if your lifestyle is similar to ours. Darren has been at work more than he has been home in the last 4 months, so we have to be extra intentional with our time. We make quality time a priority when he is home and when he is at work. Calling each other on FaceTime each evening (or morning if he's on nights) is something we make time for. Even if I am out, or have prearranged plans, it is very rare that I don't make the time to call Darren.
6. Appreciate the little things. I love being able to do things as a team, even if that task is something mundane like getting groceries or heading to an appointment. Its just the fact we get to be together while doing it. You don't always have to be going on a date night to enjoy each others company.
7. Form your lifestyle to fit you and your spouse, not what other people expect for you. What works for other couples, might not work for you, so find the balance that makes you both feel good.
8. Have check ins, and by this I just mean checking in with each other to see where you're at. I am often very busy when Darren isn't home, I fill my days up on purpose so that when he is home I can be more present with him. We make it a priority to always ask how each others day was, but we also like to check in a see where we're at with other things. For example, I like to share with Darren what my goals are for work, or maybe something insightful that I read in a book, and how it made me feel. These little acts of sharing are what keep me feeling connected, especially if he is at work.
9. Make more time for being silly and having fun. Life is busy, and always will be! Don't forget to find time to just check out and have fun! It doesn't have to be anything extravagant either, sometimes its just enjoying some ice cream while watching a funny show. Whatever makes you feel relaxed, and brings laughter, do more of that!
10. Last but not least: be each others mirror. Darren is always encouraging me to continue working on my goals. Some days I need an extra pep talk, and some days I just need him to talk something through with me. He is always there to listen and support me, which helps me recognize the areas I need to work on. Having him encourage me reminds me why I am here, and it gives me the space to reflect on my areas of growth.
Most of these things are insights I have learned in our entire relationship, but I have still enjoyed blooming even more since we have been married. I hope you have enjoyed this post, and that I have provided some value to you!
Have the best day!
xo
