1. DO NOT waste your time at a job you do not like - You may or may not be employed at this point in time, if you're not thats totally okay. But if you are, you might hate your job and wonder what you're even doing, or you might love it. But let me tell you this, please for the love of everything, do not stay someplace that makes you feel miserable. You should spend your time at work loving the atmosphere, creating friendships with your coworkers, and getting something out of every day. Not waking up in the morning feeling sick because you're so worried about having to spend another 8 hours in a building with people who make you uneasy. So what I am trying to say is, find the job that makes you happy. Do this in between all the learning you need to do in order to get the career you want. You shouldn't settle for a bad atmosphere just because you think you have to wait to love your job until you are in a career. Seriously, take this advice, you'll thank me later.
2. Don't be ashamed - When you get chatting with an old friend and they ask you how you have been and what you have been up to, do not feel ashamed to tell them of your obstacles. Yes, I am unemployed, and yes this hasn't been easy, but no this does not mean I have failed. You would be lying if you said that you haven't made a bad choice or hit a few bumps in the road that have thrown you off path. But remember, just keep going. This is how life is, one minute its sunny and warm and the next you feel like a new born tree in the middle of a tornado. You might be convinced your roots won't hold you down, but they will because you're stronger then you think.
3. To the people in a relationship - Please come and join me while I make a speech about how it doesn't matter if you're in a committed relationship at a "young" age. Yes, I am in a committed relationship and yes I am in my early twenties. But there is absolutely not one problem with this. So to all the people that say you shouldn't be in a committed relationship with someone until you are older, please stop. You're saying you need to wait until you're more mature and understand yourself better because people change or people blah blah blah. Well excuse me for wanting to experience life with someone else by my side. If I want to travel some where, I always have a companion, when I need help with something, I always have someone there for me. So please, let the people be in love, and let the people do what they need to do in life. Don't sit there and tell us how to live our lives. Just because we are in a relationship does not mean we won't live our lives. We will do what we want to do, when we want to do it, and we will be lucky enough to have someone there with us.
4. To the people not in a relationship - There is also absolutely nothing wrong with not being with someone. Do not be the person in a relationship just because you think thats what you should do. Do not give your heart to someone that isn't willing to hold it. And do not keep someone around because you're afraid of being alone. Growing up is a learning curve, we will spend days wondering who we are as people but please do not be with someone out of an obligation. Get out of the bad relationships that don't give you the joy and freedom that a good one should. Please, stand your ground and live your life freely and confidently. Your time will come, I promise. So don't be worried, and don't spend your time feeling jealous, and please do not compare yourself to someone else. Your life is yours, not theirs, we all do things differently. Life would be painfully boring if we were all the same.
5. You must learn to cook - Seriously. Do yourself a favour and learn how to cook. Do not be that person who doesn't know how to cook anything but chicken and potatoes. You will quickly get bored of food and burn a hole in your wallet because you eat out so much. Be the twenty something that knows how to put on an amazing dinner party. Your stomach, your wallet and your guests will thank you. So buy a cook book, make your Mom give you recipes, and have your Grandmother show you how to make her famous meatballs. Give cooking an honest attempt. Be okay with failing sometimes because you can laugh about it later when the next time you try it turns out amazing.
6. Don't stop being silly - Just because we are entering adulthood doesn't mean we should stop being silly. Don't lose your inner child because you think you're supposed to be a sophisticated adult at all hours of the day. Everyone needs those days where they can just be. So take the opportunity to dance in the kitchen in your pyjamas, or build a sand castle, or take an evening drive honking your horn at crows on the road. Whatever your silly is, don't stop. Don't let people tell you that when you hit adulthood you have to lose your inner child.
7. Trust yourself - Don't ever stop trusting your instincts. There is a reason you have those butterflies in your stomach. Thank you, Darren, for teaching me that my gut instinct is right almost 100% of the time. And my life has since improved once I learned this. If you feel something just isn't right, trust yourself. Trust that whatever life decision you are about to make is the right one. I can't promise there won't be mountains to climb over but there is a reason for every decision we make and every obstacle we have to hurtle over. Just keep trusting and never stop moving forward. You got this, I can promise that.
8. Keep learning - You don't have to go to school to learn. You can learn from your atmosphere, you can learn from reading the newspaper, you can learn from everything. Stop thinking that the only way to learn is to go to school, this is not true. You don't have to go to school to learn valuable skills, and you should only go to school if you are 100% ready and committed. Otherwise it won't give you the fulfilment that you deserve. So until you are ready to go to school, learn from other areas of your life. If you were brave and ready and have already completed a degree then don't stop your learning after graduation. There is always so much to learn. So keep reading, keep researching, keep trying new things. It is the best thing for you.
9. Stay fit and healthy - You don't have to be a body builder, or a marathoner, or an amazing athlete. But you do need to stay active and eat healthy food. Your older self with thank you. So make healthy food choices, stay away from packaged fast food and get outside and enjoy nature every so often. Heck, why not take your healthy food and take a hike up a mountain just to enjoy your lunch with an awesome view. I'm serious, staying healthy is so important, you have to take care of yourself.
10. Don't be afraid of change - Life can be hard and life can be messy. And sometimes the only way to get out of a sticky situation is to make a change. Remember to be patient, and remember that change is good. This is how we grow. We learn from our mistakes and we grow from the lessons we learned. So don't be afraid to move, or to change jobs, or to try something new. Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Push yourself out of your shell and experience life and all it has to offer. Trust yourself, trust your decisions and most of all trust that change is good. It is completely okay to be terrified but don't let fear hold you back. Take a breath, and make the change. Don't wait for tomorrow, or next month. Don't wait at all, dive in and make all the changes you need too. Your future self will always thank you. So be brave, you can do it.
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And that is what Ann has to say about being in her twenties.
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